Avoid Fighting With Your Spouse When You Come Home

Many DPHA members have stressful jobs.  We worry about business, providing meaningful opportunities for our team members and keeping our clients satisfied.  We often leave our offices with hundreds of thoughts on our mind and too often nagging problems that have not been resolved.  So what happens when you walk into your home? It's difficult to leave the stresses of the day at the threshold. That's why one of the toughest challenges most days is the attitude adjustment when we get home.  What happens if you had a rotten day but your spouse had a fantastic one and the only thing they want to talk about is all the good things that happened?  If your day was horrible, how receptive would you be to the good news your partner wants to relate? 

 

Researchers have discovered that couples will not usually be in sync when the arrive at home.  Each partner will have different needs and recovery times when they greet each other at the end of the workday.  What can you do?  Let your partner know how long you need to clear your head before engaging in a meaningful dialog.  Additionally, "Be aware that a degree of emotion management and self-monitoring can be particularly useful.  We tend to approach our spouses and partners with the expectation we can just be 'ourselves' without worrying about how we'll be perceived or our impact on them," writes Stanford instructor Ed Batista.  Batista points out that the interpersonal skills we use at our showrooms to make ourselves successful work equally well when you get home.